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How do you deal with the ex girlfriends trying to control things in your home and seeing your husband get cheated frequently out of time with his kids because he doesnt agree with what they want or if they are in a bad mood etc.

How do you control your attitude?

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redsonya827

Asked by redsonya827 at 3:22 PM on Dec. 9, 2008 in Relationships

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  • You dont get involved, its his issue and he has to take control of the situation and stop allowing her to do that. One way he can is to get a court order spelling out visitations and what not. Once he has that if she breaks the order she can be held in contempt of court. Sometimes its just a slap on the wrist but repeated offenses can lead to monetary fines, time in jail and ultimately losing custody of the child.
    As a custodial mom myself the best step mom I ever had to deal with was a mom herself and just stayed out of the situation entirely and was nice to my kids while in her care.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:27 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

  • I agree with 1st answer. Stay out of it. If you get involved, she'll only get mad and it'll make things worse. Let him deal with it, thru the courts, let him deal with her pettiness, her attitude and you just be supportive of him. Agree with everything he says about her, if you want, privately. Otherwise, stay out of it, be nice to the kids, don't talk about their mom with them. It sucks when you want to say something about the crappy way someone is acting, but this is one of those times you have to just bite your tongue.
    tropicalmama

    Answer by tropicalmama at 3:30 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

  • take my advice from a mothers point of view stay out of it let him deal with it. If there is anthing a mother hates its another women who doesnt really know the situation sticking her nose in their buisness. All it does is make the mom more mad and shes liable to be a real B...ch to him becuz of it.
    Mommy2B04

    Answer by Mommy2B04 at 3:38 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

  • Definetely agree with previous answers. You are in a tough situation, if you do get involved, no matter what you look like the bad guy.
    dmoradi

    Answer by dmoradi at 4:01 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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