I feel like a fool for talking about this (and I'm sorry if it seems long-winded), but I really need some advice. First off, I'm 26 and I only have one sibling: my little sister is 19. She and I got along really well for years, but in the past couple years her behavior has driven me crazy. I chalked it up to her being so much younger than me, but really, it's got to be more than just that.
Here are the big issues I'm having:
~ She used to admire me as her big sis, look up to me, ask me for advice, and compliment me. Now all she does is put me down or make fun of me - even if it's "in jest", it's clear she means what she says.
~ She's severely depressed and hypochondriacal. She is on medications I can't even count anymore, and this stems from living with my dad, who thinks there is a prescription for every annoyance.
~ She is embarrassing. Her Facebook statuses are ALWAYS something about how terrible her life is, how life has just crapped all over her basically. (Which is absurd! She has two jobs, her own apartment, a paid-off car, health insurance, and money in the bank. I can't even claim to have all of those things!) It mortifies me to see her posting these things to all of the same people I know and associate with. Even if someone tries to make her feel better, she'll argue with them - "no, you're wrong, there is no bright side to my complaint", essentially.
~ She tells me (and everyone we meet) that my kids are soooo annoying. That HURTS. They are well-behaved, intelligent, hilariously funny little kids. And they're toddlers for pete's sake! I don't know one other person who would describe them as annoying. Not to mention, she sees them one day a week for maybe an hour or two!
~ She tries to upstage me and make me feel terrible in every situation. I'm in college full-time, but if this gets brought up in conversation, she immediately points out that she's in college full-time too, AND in an honor society, AND works two jobs - she literally says this stuff OUT LOUD, with emphasis on the "AND I work two jobs too!" (I'm a stay at home mom. So I guess that makes me a failure in her eyes?)
~ After all of the whining she does about everything, she doesn't have time to give a rat's patootie about anyone else. So when she asked me how I was the other day, I was shocked. I replied that I was "Great! No complaints, except maybe the homework I'm racing to finish because I procrastinated so long!" (chuckle). Her response to that? *rolling eyes* "Whiner!"......SERIOUSLY?!!?
Anyway, I used to take this stuff with a grain of salt, but it's become too much. It doesn't help that my own life has taken a massive hit in the last 2 years (my husband lost his job and we lost everything in the process), but I don't go around talking to everyone about that. I don't feel like I can handle my sister's attitude and insults anymore, when I'm trying so hard to repair my own life and keep my chin up. My parents don't seem to think there's anything wrong or abnormal, or that I have any reason to be upset.
What do you guys think? :(
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