My new daughter in law acts like she cannot make up her mind...
One minute she is complaining that I " stick my nose into everything and need to back off" ( refering to if I ask ANYTHING about the grandkids... I even get a sigh or a grrr if I ask if she had a nice day at work) ...
BUT , then if she wants me to do something ( like pay the babysitter, or now, fire the babysitter) then I can ask whatever I want about the kids ( basically she is sweet as can be ) ...
It drives me crazy.
My son came to me not to long ago because they were having alot of marriage problems and he needed advice.... she blew up and was so mad....
but then got the idea that i would pay for marriage counsiling and suddenly she is willing to talk and talk and talk about their marriage....
when I cant pay for the counsiling, she says I am sticking my nose in again.
I have no right to know things about the grandkids unless she wants me to know...
I heard one of them hacking and coughing and wanted to know if he was sick and she replied " if they were sick enough for you to know about, you would know"
well today she wants to tell me all about how sick he is and wants me to take him to the DR.
i am not sure if maybe she has different personalities or what but this is driving me crazy !!!
Asked by Anonymous at 8:11 AM on Jun. 2, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by SpiritedWitch at 8:24 AM on Jun. 2, 2011
Answer by NannyB. at 9:03 AM on Jun. 2, 2011
Answer by whitepeppers at 9:04 AM on Jun. 2, 2011
It sounds like you might be living together and if not it seems like you have a lot of contact with your DIL. I would suggest more distance between the two of you. What might not seem like meddling to you might be to her. Also, I can understand your DIL's issue with your son going to "mommy" when he has marriage problems. Like it or not, a mom is going to be biased toward their own child. When our marriage was rocky I hated my husband going to my MIL, but a lot of that had to do with the fact that she liked to share our personal lives with everyone she knew (which is why now she doesn't get to know much of anything). Let her come to you with things, instead of asking her, if she wants to share with you she will. Good luck (c:
Answer by scout_mom at 9:30 AM on Jun. 2, 2011
Answer by SpiritedWitch at 10:21 AM on Jun. 2, 2011
Answer by Freela at 9:00 PM on Jun. 2, 2011
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Really ? Would you fire your babysitter for this ?