I love my sister in law, I really do... but right now she is making it very hard for me to like her.
part of me wants to tell her off, the other part of me feels badly for her.
I assume that the way she acts stems from her being jealous that I am able to be a stay at home mom and she cant. When she first got pregnant she said when the baby came she wanted to quit her job so she can stay home with the baby ( I got excited over that because I was hoping we could do playdates and walks to the park together) ... but then one day my brother came to us with money troubles ( my husband is a good money manager) and he helped my brother go through all of their bills and such to try and find out why 2 people who have decent jobs are always out of money.... They quickly realized she has a shopping habit and spends it faster than they can make it ( they have an income of around $5000/ month ( which is GREAT where we live), and yet have bills close to $6000/ month.... This meaning they cannot afford her to stay home if she continues to spend the way she does ( which she still does)..... Now I watch my niece everyday when they go to work ( for free) .. and I do love it because my niece and my kids are very close now.
the problem is... she constantly puts down the fact that I am a stay at home mom... she ALWAYS makes little remarks about how SAHMs are lazy and she assumes I just sit on the computer all day while the kids play.... ( she has said all of these things plus many more) .
First off, if I wasnt a stay at home mom, she wouldnt be getting free childcare, I dont get on the computer ( unless I need to look up a number or something) unless the kids are napping and my house cleaning is done ( or at night when they are in bed ), not to mention she makes several posts throughout the day because SHE is getting on Facebook while at work. ... She always says she is jealous that my house is nice and clean ( she does say that in a nice way like " how do you keep it so nice and clean all the time" type of way..... but yet how does she think it gets that way with 3 toddlers running around and I am just "sitting on my butt" . If I just let them play while I lounge around, how does her daughter make her crafts or have stories of what she did at the park that day, how do they have nice warm meals to eat everyday ....
it drives me crazy and i really would just like to tell her off to make her undestand she has no right to talk to me like that, the othe part feels bad and I think this might be kind of her was of "acting out" since she knows she cant be a stay at home mom and be with her child all day, but still even if that is the case, she shouldnt be saying that stuff ....
What would you do ????
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