My DH and I have been together for five years, married for two next week... Our ds is 9 mo.
While I was pregnant I was involved in a car accident, thank god my baby was unaffected by it, but a couple days after the Dr called and told me I tested positive for ghonorea. I have been 100% loyal to my DH and I begged the Dr to tell me there was another way to catch ghonorea but she said to me "I hate to be the one to tell you, but your husbands cheated on you, its the only way." Afterwards, I went home and as reasonably as possible i sat him down and asked him how many times has he cheated and with who. He swore up and down he didnt and got angy saying the only way I could have it was if I cheated bc he knew he didn't. He went in to get tested and then I went to re-test and they called me two days later saying it was negative but I should really do the test again. I trusted my dh and did not choose to re-test.
Fast forward 8 months later I find out when I was pregnant DH lied to me about going to a strip club. Something I told him I had no problem with. I really don't care he went to one but that he lied. In my mind you lie when you do something wrong, so I asked him if something happened to warrant lying to me. He said no he just wanted to avoid an argument bc despite I'd told him I didn't care if he went he didn't think is be ok with it.
2 months later (today) a girl, well call Kelly, who's brother we lived with at the time of the strip club, well call him Kyle. Calls me saying Kyle told her my DH had him cover for him while he went to get shit faced drunk with another girl. While I was pregnant. I simply told my DH about what she said and he FLIPPED. he screamed I always accuse him of cheating, he never has, and he was furious. I explained ive accused him within reason, only when I felt I had to. (The above are the only times I've ever said anything about cheating.) I told him he is the one that put this reasonable doubt in my head by lying to me, i did not make it up. He yells that hes tired of it, he doesn't believe he ever lied he said he just "left it out" he starts to leave for work and tells DS he loves him and stands there waiting for me to say something. I said "I deserve an apology from you." He screams he can't be late for work for "this shit" and slams the door.
On top of this, he dsnt help me with our ds, I basically raise him on my own. He chooses his friends over me every time Tue option is there. He refuses to go with me and DS for family fun dates. He expects me to be the stepford wife and working mom with no help from him. I work but "were too broke" for me to do anything with my friends, or to go out on a date to a restaurant, but theres always enough for him to bar hop and go to strip clubs.
I'm at my breaking point. I cant do this any more.
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