How can adoptees not think of their first moms as their mothers? They bonded with us for nine months in our womb. That should make a bond that should last forever. How can they think of their adoptive parents as their real parents? If it weren't for us, they wouldn't be born.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:27 PM on Jun. 2, 2011 in Adoption
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Answer by mrsziemann at 12:19 AM on Jun. 3, 2011
First of all I don't think your question is genuine. I think it's supposed to start debate. But, I'm game to debate you. There adoptive parents are 'real" as are their birth parent. Their adoptive parent really raised them, and their birth parents really birthed them. Their adoptive siblings are real siblings, their adoptive grandparents are real grandparents and of course their aparents are really their parents. Also, their birth sibling are their real sibling etc, and their birth heritage is undoubtedly their real heritage. (see the book of Exodus and Moses).
Answer by onethentwins at 2:12 AM on Jun. 3, 2011
Answer by onethentwins at 2:18 AM on Jun. 3, 2011
cont: but the truth is many adoptees do think of us as mother. As Nancy Verrier, adoptive mother and leading expert in adoptee issues has to say: There exists a great need for legislative action and concern for the rights of adoptees. But few dare give voice to that which they know in their hearts: that the connection between biological mother and child is primal, mystical, mysterious, and everlasting. Far more than merely biological and historical, this primal connection is also cellular, psychological, emotional, and spiritual. So deep runs the connection between a child and its mother that the severing of that bond results in a profound wound for both, a wound from which neither fully recovers. In the case of adoption, the wound cannot be avoided, but it can and must be acknowledged and understood.
Answer by onethentwins at 2:22 AM on Jun. 3, 2011