I simply refused to be my husbands "mother"; meaning I will not pick up after him the way she did. That goes for helping keep the house up too. We BOTH live in this house, we BOTH "dirty" the house, therefore we will BOTH share in keeping up OUR house. I told my husband that by him ignoring the dirty tub/shower, dirty dishes in the sink, our piled up dirty laundry, & all the other things you "dirty" from day to day living, that he is sending me a silent message that he believes it's MY job to clean it all up. Nuh-uh, it dont work that way; that's insulting & unfair. And I dont buy the excuse "I didnt see that needed cleaned", because if I SEE it, he sees it!!! If your husband wont willingly help you out & do his share, then you have to change your behavior to show him you wont tolerate his anymore. STOP picking up after him, stop doing what he expects done everyday, & watch what happens.
at 10:51 AM on Jun. 3, 2011