Today was a very difficult day and I kept busy the entire time cleaning, doing laundry, dishes, cooking and taking care of my two special needs kids. This afternoon at 4:30 p.m. my husband made it home just in time for the first time home visit of a behavioral specialist to give us tips on how to work with our son. It was a good visit, but it lasted till 6:30 so dinner was late..Anyways, an hour after they left my husband gets several texts from work and had to go back in the fab (he works on site at Intel but for a contracting company called DNSE). It's past midnight and he's still there. EVERYDAY, I never know when exactly he will be arriving home..much of the time I just feed dinner to the kids myself and almost all of the household duties are mine. Last month alone I had 17 appointments on my schedule for my daughters therapys, doctor's visits, and my son's as well..all of which I attended alone. Many times even after my husband comes home he always brings his work home with him..sets up his laptop, answers emails, and texts on his personal time. He is also often on call during the week and every other weekend..so we can't plan trips or go places that are far away in case he gets called back to work. Even when visiting his family or mine, he will bring his work with him. I am trying extremely hard at this point not to get pissed..but with all of my responsibilities, I am overwhelmed and have little support..zero friends, and no one who truly understands my situation and the amount of stress it produces. Ladies who can relate or not relate...do you have any advise on how to deal with this??
Answer by Dr.Donna at 7:08 AM on Jun. 3, 2011
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Answer by Syphon at 7:04 AM on Jun. 3, 2011
Mine isn't quite this bad, but there is only so much we can take! My S/O runs a restaurant, he is scheduled 50-60 hours every week, he can't take weekends off (I only have weekends off), and I do everything around the house and for our 3 y/o (and I'm pregnant). The first year or so I was fine with it, I didn't mind, because I knew he was doing it so we could have a better life. After that first year, I couldn't take it any more. He would come home, talk about work, constantly talk to people he worked with, couldn't take vacation because no one could handle the place without him. It was too much for me. I finally just broke it down for him: You work so you can live, you do not live to work. I asked him to work with his supervisor to get something worked out because his job was stressing me out. Its only been a few months, but he has already taken initiative..
Answer by Anonymous at 10:59 AM on Jun. 3, 2011
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