I see this thrown around. A LOT. Especially when someone senior behaves badly and is in turn, treated accordingly.
I was raised to treat everyone with neutrality until they prove themselves worthy, or unworthy of respect- regardless of their age/gender/social status... UNLESS they are in a position of absolute authority, in which case, you do not have to respect the person who is behaving badly, you have respect for the position of authority.
My own children are being raised to show neutrality unless and until they can determine whether or not the individual (child, or adult) who is NOT in a position of absolute authority is worthy of respect. This DOES NOT give them a license to behave badly, bad behavior is inexcusable, regardless of age.... Which is why I ask this...
Why the perception that our "elders" in some way are absolutely deserving of respect, regardless of their own behavior?
Is this simply a hold over from christianity that has been impressed upon in our society? Simply shut up and take abuse from our elders, because they are our elders?
I view everyone as equal, simply because you have more years on the earth than I, does not put you in a position of authority.
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