my BF came home from from being away working for a couple of days. He had taken a pic of a tree in his aunts yard were he had carved our intials (so cute). His 9yr old asked to see the pic then looked straightat him and said "I hate you" he asked her why and her answer was "because your an idiot and I can't stand you"...... this is common for her. her mother was really verbally abusive to her dad as well as physically. she is starting to follow in her footstep. can anyone give me any advice?Answer Question
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Answer by Shanna84 at 1:43 PM on Jun. 3, 2011
Obviously there was more bothering her about the photo than she said, but for whatever reason she is more comfortable lashing out than talking about it. I'm going to guess that she was feeling a bit jealous that her father did something sweet while thinking about you, instead of her.
I would recommend that he try to find some little ways of showing her more attention so she doesn't feel left out, and if she and her dad haven't been to some kind of counseling about the past abuse, I think that's a very good idea, too.
I also highly recommend this book: http://www.amazon.com/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/0380811960 It has great advice on how to get kids (especially at that age) to open up and talk about what's bothering them.
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