My DH has never cheated on me and well he's a recovering alcoholic. He's been doing great not a single drink in a long time and last night he was late I freaked out. He car pools with his cousins and his supervisor so if the supervisor has to stay last sometimes he does too and well last night he was 1 and 1/2 hours late. I started calling at first I was worried but by the 15th call and to be honest I was pushing redial I was pissed. When he answered the phone I was angry and asked him in a very pissed off tone where are you? He said over his cousins house which is fine by me. I was still mad and asked why are you an hour late and he replied that the saw broke down at the mill and they had to work over to meet their goal, which is normal too. Then I went in to gripping about why he didn't answer the phone and he said because he emptied his pockets out and accidental left it in the car and as soon as they heard it ringing he answered it. Well I was still pissed and said fine when are you coming home and ladies my tone with him was pretty nasty so he started getting mad at me too. he said soon which pissed me off more because that's not an answer!!! so I said again when are you going to be home!!!and by that time I was yelling and not acting right and he said an hour!!! I said ok and hung up then an hour goes by and by that time it was 5 am which he works nights and usually gets home between 2:30 and 3 am and he wasn't home and didn't answer the phone so I started the redial again!!!! and he finally answered at 5:17 and said I'l be there in 3 min. well it only takes 20 min. to get home from his cousins, so I knew he waited til 5 to leave. I was upset about that and when he got home he had been drinking. then he tried to blame me for his falling off the wagon!!! I agree that I didn't help but he's grown he knows not to drink because he can't just drink one so there's no telling how many he had his cousin called me and said he had 6 which is 6 too many for a recovering alcoholic and his cousin drove him home while his wife followed so he knows not to drink and drive!!! I'm upset with myself and my DH! I could tell he didn't want to wake up and go to work today he told me that he loves me before he left and I know that he feels bad and that i shouldn't have gripped him out last night.he even said baby I would have come straight home if you wouldn't have pissed me off!!! I know I shouldn't have gone off what should I do? say? please help I'm really sorry for pour my problems out to you all and thanks in advance for your advice
Asked by Anonymous at 5:41 PM on Jun. 3, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by maxsmom11807 at 5:45 PM on Jun. 3, 2011
Answer by attap5 at 5:46 PM on Jun. 3, 2011
You need to not take the blame for him drinking. If you take the blame than you are enabling. What you did might not have been the best way to handle things, but if you take the blame and let him blame you for pissing him off so he did not come straight home than he will stay off the wagon.
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