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Kind of hating Dr. Phil right now

I DVR'd an episode where two teens have two kids. They're 18 and married. He's talking about how he cant imagine his 20 year old child raising a plant, much less a child. He also isn't even trying to help them get their marriage back on track, he's just encouraging divorce.

I don't think he would encourage divorce if they were older, even if they were having the same issues.

And I was a mother at 20. I got pregnant with my daughter (on purpose) when I was 19. I got married (on purpose) when I was 18. We've been married almost 5 years and we have two kids. Doesn't he think that maybe the teen divorce rate is so high because no one supports them or takes them seriously?

I'm very happy with my life and my decisions. I kind of take exception to someone saying my life and my family is bound to fail.

Do you think young families are all dysfunctional?

 
Ati_13

Asked by Ati_13 at 7:51 PM on Jun. 3, 2011 in Just for Fun

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  • My husband and I were married when we were 18 and 19 and had our first child at 19 and 20 and we are doing great! I think Dr Phil should have encouraged them more!
    Brandi300

    Answer by Brandi300 at 7:55 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • I got married at 19, had a child at 20. we got divorced at age 26. Nobody discouraged us from marriage. But seriously , we were too young. I know that NOW. I am almost 41 now. I can look back & understand things now that I could not see then. I dont think all young marriages are doomed to fail but a large portion probably are...mainly because you don't know what you don't know. My son is nearly 21. I have cautioned him against getting married young. If you are meant to be, you can wait & it will work out.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:00 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • it depends on the family and how mature they are and how they live their life.. i DO NOT agree with dr phil. he should NEVER push people with kids apart.. I stopped watching him bc he told a family to down size/. sell a car if not BOTH move into a smaller house blah blah REALLY?? in stead of that how about FAMILY TIME do stuff together.. Hes not a really DR anyway no license

    chrstny88

    Answer by chrstny88 at 8:00 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • Doesn't he think that maybe the teen divorce rate is so high because no one supports them or takes them seriously?

    You are a very smart lady!!!!!

    I had twins at 17 pregnant at 16 and got married at 18...i have been with my hubby for 8 years going on 9 in sept and married for almost 4 in oct. we grew together an grew up together. we have three kids together, now and still going strong. A relationship regardless of its age takes time to grow together and for those who dont have patence and dedication it will not last. so, i say its not the age its the person!!
    babygirl_18

    Answer by babygirl_18 at 8:18 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • He's a complete ass.
    onethentwins

    Answer by onethentwins at 8:35 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • I think you make an excellent point
    Lucky209

    Answer by Lucky209 at 7:59 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • The pregnancies in the episode you are referencing were not planned, and if I remember correctly, they were much younger (like 15) when she had the first one. I don't think all young families are dysfunctional, but those two "parents" seemed very immature and like they really wanted a way out.
    That being said, I do think a lot of young people are naive. I got married at 20. If you had told me at 25 that less than 6 years later I would have been divorced I would have told me you were crazy, nevertheless, that's what happened. Many people grow and change a lot in their 20s. Because of that I don't think it's wise for most people to get married before around 25.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 8:06 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • Anon, I really see what you're saying. In my case, waiting was unacceptable. I know without a doubt that if he and I were still just dating, without kids... I would be miserable. We really, really wanted a family, so we made one.

    Another thing to consider is fertility. A woman's fertility starts to decline after age 25, and takes a nosedive at 30. If you want children, waiting isn't always a good idea.

    I think supporting teens who want to start families with education and premarital counseling is the solution, not discouraging young families.
    Ati_13

    Comment by Ati_13 (original poster) at 8:09 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • I got married at 20, had our first 9 months later, our second 18 months after that... We have been Roger almost 8 years married almost 4. I love my husband more now then ever. No one should jump to the conclusion that just because people get married young, doesn't mean they aren't in love. It just means we found our soul mate sooner... People should learn to support marriages.
    BabyBugsmama

    Answer by BabyBugsmama at 8:09 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

  • Personally I agree with Dr Phil. Teens aren't qualified to make decision that have lifetime implications..

    That is why in most states they still have parental responcibilities attached until 21. That is why they don't allow drinking till 21.. etc! Hoping by then you might have the common sence to make a GOOD Choice..

    But then again.. I know many 30+ year olds making pretty crappy choices ... JUST MY OBSERVATIONS
    2boys4momma

    Answer by 2boys4momma at 8:15 PM on Jun. 3, 2011

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