Mine's home once a month for 2-6 days. We spend a lot of time on the phone together. I have plenty of hobbies (photography, writing, reading, swimming, cooking) to keep me busy, plus the 2 kids. I take care of the house, pay the bills, run errands and all that. I find things to keep me busy when we're not on the phone so that I don't dwell on the fact that he's not here. I like being able to fix something in the house and then tell him I did it, and to hear him be impressed that I managed that on my own.
Is this new for you? I know for me, when I was first learning to deal with this, it was really hard. I missed him so much and I really wallowed in it. Eventually, I realized things were better when I kept myself busy and it gave me stuff to talk to him about, and so even though I still miss him, it's become easier to deal with.
at 8:20 PM on Jun. 3, 2011