My marriage has been rocky for about the last year. And honestly I'm about ready to give up on staying with him. He goes back and forth from hot to cold. And I'm tired of it, cause every time he goes cold it hurts.
He's believing rumors over me. We're from a small town and there are some rumors floating around that I am having an affair. I am NOT. I have no way to prove this as DH is in Iraq but I know where the rumor started from. I was in WalMart and saw a friend of mine I hadn't seen in 4 or 5 years and gave him a hug. We got to talking so he ended up walking with me and was nice enough to push my cart. He was just being nice. Cause pushing a cart and a double stroller without help is a pain in the butt. After that if I ran into him and was having trouble he would occasionally help me out. As a thank you, I asked him to join the kids and I for lunch one day. My aunt was at the Chinese joint in town and saw me with him. This was last Spring and the friend and I have talked, sent stuff over FB on the games, and when he got sick last Fall at work I took him to the ER. And he helped me move. I couldn't move all the furniture alone and literally no one else would help me. Just plain friendship.
When DH started accusing me of cheating I cut contact. No argument, I just did it. I did everything DH asked of me short of move 1700 miles away from my home without him. We have two toddlers one with health issues and the other with behavioral. I didn't think moving with the kids without knowing anyone and with no help was a good idea and so I refused saying I would happily move when he got back and outlined my concerns. This was also last Fall.
We have had some massive fights since then. He came home on R&R and did a lot of things while home that scared me. But at the same time he was pretty affectionate.
Now little more than a month later he's refusing to speak to me. Saying he wants to read his Bible and pray. In the meantime he won't speak to me hardly. Unless I ask him a question about the van or the kids. And I'm on the verge of being done. Just telling him to go to hell. Cause he'll talk for a few days and then he'll cold-shoulder me.
I thought things were looking up... I told him I love him a couple of days ago and while he didn't say it back he didn't get mad. I forgot to delete it off the message I sent him. Which was an improvement. IDK what to think.
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