My DH is divorced, so I have MIL and SFIL, FIL and SMIL, and SIL.
I get along GREAT with SFIL and SMIL. Must be the "step" connection (I'm a SM to DH's oldest daughter). lol.
MIL is nice to my face, but VERY rude otherwise. FIL is nice, and we get along in person, but don't usually communicate (we're long distance). Neither MIL nor FIL EVER call to talk to our kids, when/if they send something for the kids for birthdays/holidays, they ALWAYS send it late (as in, after the fact...but they always remember their grandkids close by--we're the only ones long distance)...If I email them for DH or to give them an update on the kids, they never email me back (SFIL emails back, though. SMIL doesn't have email, so I can't email her). They never say THANK YOU for anything we send them from us or the kids (including things like gifts for holidays, pictures, etc). SIL, well, she does the same thing as MIL--nice to my face, but very rude when I'm not there. If I email her, she won't respond unless it's something that she's being nosey about (she will ignore my emails unless she says to email her about what's going on....so, yeah, I'm stopping that). And she acts like she knows everything! Oh, and did I mention that whenever DH goes to see SD, she asks us to plan around HER plans (like birthday parties and such) and not around the schedule that DH has for when he can go see his daughter? Yup, she always asks him to come early knowing he would have to leave earlier (he takes 14 days off of work at a time for that).
I REALLY tried to get along with these people. Really, I did. I grew up with a grandmother who does the same crap as my in-laws, and I didn't want my kids to hurt the way I did thinking my grandparent doesn't love them or care about them. And I saw the relationship my mom had with my grandmother, too (she was my dad's mom). It wasn't nice, AT ALL. I didn't want that. I plan on being with DH for the rest of my life, so I did everything I could to try to start things off good.
Do you get along with your in-laws? How would you handle my situation?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:40 AM on Jun. 4, 2011 in Relationships
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