Ok, relationship-wise what is the difference? I understand the legal protections and all that...
If you are in a committed relationship you aren't going to walk way when things get tough. You work with and for each other to resolve problems and differences and to achieve each others' personal and shared goals. You look toward the future together. In a committed relationship you understand that both parties have something valuable to bring to the table. You respect each other. You have each others' backs. You never have to question the other's faithfulness or motivations. You share a deep trust in one another. You never eel like you have to put on an act for the other person because they know your true self and they accept you and all your flaws and love you with them.
How is this less than a married couple? Marriage IS a commitment, on paper and in front of your family and friends, and, if you believe, God. Unfortunately about half end in divorce, so marriage in and of itself obviously doesntt guarantee that your partner won't leave or cheat or be selfish or controlling or whatever. The marriage itself doesn't make the relationship. The relationship was already there. Getting married didn't make it better or more real. Did it?
For me marriage is a greater commitment than just living together. Sure there are people who don't honor that commitment, which is how we get divorce statistics, but since nothing has to be done for those living together to just split how can we know whether or nor more marriages fail than "commitments"?
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