My mother ended up messaging me saying that she wanted to see my daughter and would like to see me when she came to Kansas. Here is the thing, my brother was the very LAST person she would ever expect to want to talk to her. He just has been so angry over the years at her that he just never wanted to hear from her. Well when he decides to talk to her all of a sudden NOW my daughter is important?? NOW she wants to see her just cuz she thinks that now that my brother wants to say hi that we can all be one big happy family??? NO i dont think so. My daughter didnt matter all this time and NOW she matters. Thats bullshit. Im not gonna fight for her attention or weigh out who she loves more out of us 3 kids. I dont want to get hurt by her anymore... am i being unreasonable? I tried and tried to have a relationship with her since my sophmore year in highschool and im almost 21 now. Im just done with her shit. A part of me wants to tell her that i dont wanna be hurt by her anymore, but then another part of me wants to apologize for ignoring her messages and that i have a bigger heart then that and will be willing to try again...what do i do.. ugh...
Below is a bit of what happened not long ago that i had posted awhile back.
LONG story short. My mother has had 3 kids. My half sister with one man and 2 (my brother and i) with our dad. She dropped off the face of the earth since we were kids. Nothing to do with us. Years later i find her and we try to have a relationship, but i dont think i need to tell you how that ended since she was awful enough to leave her kids in the first place.
We did not end on good terms at all. Well randomly my brother decides he wants to talk to her for the first time in years. So he wanted me to give him her number. He called the number and he said it didnt go thru. Like the number was disconnected or something. So i text her and tell her my brother wants to say hi to her and if this was her number. She didnt say anything back. But then my half sister texted her "hey" and got an immediate reply.
This irritates me not because i actually care to talk to her..but the fact that she is choosing to talk to only ONE of her kids, when my half sister does not want to talk to her either. She only texted her "hey" to see if it was her number still.
What kind of mother does that?
She is an awful person. When i met her she did nothing but talk shit on my deceased father.. what kind of mother does that? Regardless of what happened between two parents...no child should be told awful things about their dead father from their "mother".
She called me awful things and after i got pregnant i just decided that there was no reason for me to talk to her. I would NEVER do the things she has done or say the things she has said to my daughter so why do i feel like I deserve that?
Ive already been hurt by her at the fact that she didnt ever want me in the first place. But when she chooses to talk to my sister but not me.. that actually hurts worse. What the fuck did i ever do to deserve this? I didnt get a chance in the first place..she already chose to hate me when i was born.
Anyway... could you really be able to choose between your kids?? Is there really ANYTHING that could keep you from loving your kids?? Cuz i cant think of a thing that would stop me from ever being there for my daughter.
Answer by jteffs at 8:40 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
Answer by bloomsr at 8:43 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
write your mother a letter on how her actions effected you. It must have been difficult growing up with a absent mother I am sure your mom has some major issues. Sounds like your mom is a very selfish person and maybe your better off without her negativity around. Focus on your baby girl and protect her from having a person in and out of her life. Surround yourself with family and people who love you and make you feel good. Remember you have done nothing wrong you were a Innocent child.
Answer by mommiedear at 9:08 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
Answer by inahan at 10:05 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
Answer by KellyGirl_TX at 10:24 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
Answer by cueballsmom at 10:25 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
Answer by KellyGirl_TX at 10:26 PM on Jun. 4, 2011