When I had my first daughter 4 years ago, I had a very traumatic birthing experience, and severe postpartum depression...but it took almost a year, as well as the near dissolution of my marriage, for me to recognize the PPD. I got myself back on track with exercise, activity, and the help of my husband, and we had our second child 2 years ago.
My relationship with my oldest has always felt different, but I never really noticed HOW different until I had a second kid. I am not as touchy feely with my 4yo (she's not either), we clash a lot, and while I love her to death, she gets on my nerves so much more than her sister. I honestly, honestly feel like it's because of the PPD back then - I had no interest in bonding with her when she was a baby, I was just a robot, taking care of her needs. I've always felt that we're just missing one of those bonds - and I don't know how to get it back, if at all. :/
Let me reiterate that I LOVE MY DAUGHTER 110%....I just wish I had the desire to grab her and snuggle her evey ten seconds like I feel for my younger daughter. I try to dole out my affection evenly; it's incredibly important to me that neither of them ever feel left out or favored. But I don't know that my feelings will ever completely match; there's a level of comfort and total security with my younger daughter that I just don't feel with the older one?
In your honest opinion, could the PPD have had anything to do with it, or am I just grasping at straws for an explanation that isn't there?
Asked by Anonymous at 9:03 PM on Jun. 4, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by threebrats at 9:12 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
Answer by alinachristen at 9:29 PM on Jun. 4, 2011
Answer by MomNtheRes at 11:40 PM on Jun. 4, 2011