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fell out of love.

I recently found that my husband of 2 years had googled "Escort Services" in the town we are planning on moving to. I confronted him and he apologized, admitted his wrong doing and begged me to forgive him, stating he would do ANYTHING if I would just stay. This isn't the first time this has happened, and we have triplets under the age of 2. My problem is that initially I was hurt, but now, truthfully, I just don't care. I think I am dissociating because I can't handle the truth, but I don't feel love for him anymore. He says he loves me and the kids, and logically I know how impossible my life would be without him and the financial support he brings us. I'm so lost. please help.

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Asked by three_lil_birds at 1:37 AM on Dec. 10, 2008 in Relationships

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  • I am happily married but I took a look at a dating site to see what was there. I have no intentions of doing anything though. Was just curious. Maybe he was just trying to check out girls?

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:40 AM on Dec. 10, 2008

  • Go with your gut. You will wat yourself alive with guilt if you don't. Your babies will get what they need. Both of you will see to that. So what if it's not GAP this and POLO that. Food, clothes, water, shelter. Don't be the "dumb girl" .. ya know?

    Answer by CM2TX08 at 2:50 AM on Dec. 10, 2008

  • Cyber or emotional cheating is STILL cheating, in my opinion. PP may claim to be happily married, but IMO a happily married person does not feel the need to even LOOK at the people on those sites--to me you are imagining yourself paired up with those people. Imagination leads to the real thing a lot of times. I believe you are justified in feeling betrayed. I think, however that he MAY be truly sorry and MAY deserve a chance to regain your trust and affection . BUT MAKE HIM WORK FOR IT!!! Men need a challenge--they have no respect for an "easy" woman. The higher you hold the hoop. the higher he will jump. Don't hold it on the floor.

    Answer by Aprilmorgans at 3:05 AM on Dec. 10, 2008

  • What happened when you confronted him about it? Did he just apologize or did he tell you why he felt the need to look? Personally, if it were me then I don't think I could trust him again. It would always be in the back of my mind. If he had a cell phone I'd be checking it. I would wreck myself trying to see all the things that he may or may not be up to. But I am probably more paranoid than the average person.
    I am sorry your hubby is being a dildo. You deserve MUCH better.

    Answer by OoJenoO at 8:01 AM on Dec. 10, 2008

  • Similiar situation. About a month before me and my husband got married, i found his ex's number in his phone. He had been away at school for his job for about a month and when he came home i just had this bad feeling about him. I checked his phone which i have never done before but i wonder what made me do it this time with him. His ex' s number showed up in his phone about 30 times calling him back to back to back. He had her name initialed and i knew who it was just from the area code. He gave two different stories about it when i asked him about it before he finally confessed but he stated that he didn't talk to her that it was her mother calling him because he ran into her mother in the grocery store.


    Answer by momma-misha at 10:41 AM on Dec. 10, 2008

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