My daughter (15) has had friends come over to hang out and sleep over. We have a pool house and the kids sleep out there. My husband and I monitor constantly and my daughter is telling me her friends think we are "crazy". When friends come over here the parents just drop them off, they never call and talk to me, NOTHING. When my daughter wants to go someplace I ALWAYS call and double check, making sure a parent will be home and the kids are doing what she told me. I truly have no reason to distrust my daughter, but the fact that she is a teenager I feel is reason enough. I told my teen I thought the other parents are crazy for not checking up on thier kids, and she said "really Mom? Then why are you the only who does it"........she is right.....not one parent ever calls me. The only explanation I can think of they all know nothing is allowed to go down over here and they don't worry when their kids come over here.
What are others doing to monitor their kids without feeling like a KGB operative? How do I strike a balance so she doesn't feel mistrusted, but I make sure she's not pulling one over on me?
I see nothing wrong with what you're doing. If there is underage drinking or drug use on your property, you are responsible. When I was in college, I had a freshman roommate my senior year. I was told that because I was of drinking age (21) and she was not, that if she got drunk in our room, I would be held responsible both morally and legally. I could be away at my home and be responsible for what happened in my room that she did.
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