This is my prob: My hubby and I got married in Jan- I was very unhappy for the 1st 6 months adjusting and met someone (yes, a male) who listened to me very well- I made it clear that I only wanted to be friends with this man and he developed feelings, told me and I cut off contact completely. (My DH thinks I shouldn't be friends with ANY MALE because of this, AND the horrible fact that his first wife left him for another man.) So now he is deployed and I have met another male that listens well, loves to talk, sings disco and is way more girlie than I am. I like hanging out with him and we have some similar interests. I've made it VERY CLEAR that I love my DH and will not do anything to disrupt our marriage (I don't hug this guy or touch him AT ALL) but I'm not sure if it's ok to have a male friend when my DH does not want me to have any?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:20 AM on Dec. 10, 2008 in Relationships
Your hubby is judging you based on what happened to him with his other wife. That's not fair. He needs to see that you are not her and learn to trust you. I think it's OK to have male friends, in your case too since you did such an admirable job of setting up boundaries with them. Maybe when he gets back invite this new male friend over so hubby can meet him. In the meantime I'd hang out with this guy around other people so they can be witnesses to your good behavior. It isn't YOUR fault that the other guy developed feelings for you. You must be a pretty, nice person and your husband should be proud. Point out to him that you cut off all contact completely as soon as you found out and that's how you will always react to declared feelings that aren't coming from your hubby!! Good luck!
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