Alexis is only 5 years old but she's had a difficult life. Her parents died when she was 4 and the aunt who was supposed to be taking care of her is alcoholic and abusive to her. So she went to an children's home where we met her.
She is a precious little girl, amazingly good manners and she's very sweet and smart. She's been living with us for 5 months now and even though she's letting us into her life more and more every day, she's still not comfortable around us. Like she's scared she might do something wrong that will make us not want her. She asks me every night at bedtime if she was a good girl during the day.
I don't want her to be scared. Her therapist says she needs her time, but if you have any suggestions, I'll try anything to make her see we do love her unconditionally.
Asked by Anonymous at 8:37 PM on Jun. 5, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by Anonymous at 8:48 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
Answer by beckie66 at 8:40 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
I am adopted and I am have an adopted boy (final in Nov). The key as far as I can tell is, consistency with rules, schedules, etc. Therapy if needed and honesty about her birth family. treat here as if she is your child and not a special treat. I know that must sound silly, but normalcy is idea. Oh and am sure you know...lots and lots of love. :o) Hugs to you all
Answer by ochsamom at 8:42 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 8:43 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
Answer by djavongirl at 8:48 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
Answer by bloomsr at 8:50 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
Answer by amommyslife03 at 8:51 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
Answer by amberpaiz at 8:57 PM on Jun. 5, 2011
when she does start acting up and pushing the limits is when you know you've really gained her trust. When she gets to that point it's like saying I trust you not to make me leave. It'll come, hugs!
Answer by Lynette at 9:00 PM on Jun. 5, 2011