This will be my second baby and I have spent months reading and research nothing I'm finding is very helpful and I've done counseling with limited results. If I did choose to labor this time it would be a VBAC since my last child was discovered to be breech at 8cm but after 17 hours of going in and out of reality I just can't do it again. I mean the epidural helped a lot and probly kept me from having a panic attack or kicking anyone in the face during an exam(male or female) but I was still not all there so my c-section was quite a relief. My abuse involved my breasts a lot so breastfeeding triggered a panic response for me or just generally disassociation with reality. I spend whole feedings trying to suppress the urge to chuck my son against the wall.
Ok now that you have the back story I really am struggling with my choices this time around if the VBAC would be a good idea or if I should just go with what I'm comfortable with? Because it seems like I only really want to experience a vaginal delivery and nursing because I hate that this is still effecting me after this many years and I don't want to disappoint people.
Any comments are welcome just please be nice and I would really appreciate some from women who have been in the same situation?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:46 AM on Jun. 6, 2011 in Pregnancy
Who are you worried about dissapointing? After the traumatic experience you have had you should do what feels comfortable to you. Also, have you tried changing therapists? Maybe someone else can help you more. I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
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