I cannot stand my husbands nephew.... I know it is not all his fault the way he acts, but I just cannot be around him for more than a few mintues before I start grinding my teeth. The worst part is, we are listed as the people who get custody of him if something happens to my mother in law ( she adopted him when he was a baby and she is in failing health) ...
I have told my husband he needs to talk to her and tell her we cannot take care of him, and she needs to change her will ( both of his parents are now able to take care of him -- they were bad druggies at one time, but they both now have stable jobs and lives) ..... I told my husband if it came down to it, we would just have to sign rights over to some other family member or he will be raising him by himself. He keeps putting off talking to his mom, and I KNOW what is going to happen.
He is 9 years old and will not listen to anything, if you try to tell him anything or try to make him listen he will threaten to call the cops on you ( and has done this to MIL several times) , he will poop his pants so he doesnt have to quit playing ( he is able to hold it and go at school no problem - but he knows MIL will clean him up ) , he is the size of a 12 year old and tries to bully my 2 and 4 year old , I once caught him lifting up my 4 year old daugters shirt ( that was the LAST time he was at my house), He wont listen to where you can say " dont do that" several times and he still wont stop until he either breaks it or gets bored with it...
He has always been like this and I know it is because of the way MIL raises him ( she is the type who will see him ripping paper and will say " oh, how cute he is being expressive" ... well now it is to the point where she cant control him....
We finally talked to her into getting him to be tested for ADD of something because of how he acts ( you cant descibe it, you have to see how he acts) ... and of course nothing is wrong with him -- it is just the way he is....
I just do not know how to make my husband understand how important this is to talk to his mother... and I know that reason is, because he knows HE wont be the one having to take care of him ( or he thinks that)... because I take care of our kids 99% of the time, I am sure he thinks that his nephews care will be all on me 99% of the time as well ( meaning he doesnt have to deal with him ) ...But I swear, I KNOW I just cannot do it... but I also know I dont have the kind of relationship with my mother in law to tell her this...
Asked by Anonymous at 7:50 AM on Jun. 6, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by dancer at 7:55 AM on Jun. 6, 2011
Answer by meooma at 7:59 AM on Jun. 6, 2011
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Answer by MizLee at 9:15 AM on Jun. 6, 2011
Answer by attap5 at 9:32 AM on Jun. 6, 2011
Answer by KairisMama at 10:09 AM on Jun. 6, 2011
If the boys PARENTS are able to care for him now, why aren't they? You'd think they would want their CHILD back.
Because her MIL ADOPTED him they can't just take him back. MIL would have to give him to them.
Answer by matthewscandi at 10:14 AM on Jun. 6, 2011
Answer by MaryMW at 4:13 PM on Jun. 6, 2011
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