Okay, I need to know how to handle in-laws who try to dictate to us...Telling us what we need to do. Assuming without asking. Arguing with us over our decisions (including those involving our kids).
DH rarely talks to his family. They don't contact him (like, ever). He calls them every few weeks to chat for a few moments. They will email me asking me to ask him stuff. The way I was raised, even if you don't like someone, you are polite. But it's getting hard to not tell them to A) Stop telling us what we are going to do, stop assuming we are okay with stuff, and stop trying to dictate our lives and B) Contact DH instead of me because it's uncomfortable for me when they email me to get through to DH. I don't want to be rude, but I can't take the drama anymore!!!!!!! It's partially my fault, because DH stopped talking to his family when he married his ex wife, and I wanted to try to encourage him to try to fix that relationship with his parents when we got together. So, he started contacting them again (they hadn't spoken in a long time before that). Now it's like they feel that they can "invade" our family and like they can use me as the go-between. I should have NEVER encouraged the relationship. Because now, not only do they do all of this, they are going behind his back talking to his ex-wife about OUR family and OUR lives so she can have information so that he will have SOME reason to contact them (nothing bad, but I don't want her knowing my kids' full names and birthdates, or where I went to college, what degree I got, etc, or what our plans our for our family, etc. It's none of her business)
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