My significant other is moving in and my 14 yr old daughter is upset, how do I make it easier

Have him spoil her a little. Nothing makes a 14 tear old girl happier than material things....

I really wouldn't do it if it upset her that much. Teenage girls are very fragile. She's only going to be at home a few more years.

my step mother moved in when i was 15 and i really think that some time spent just her and i and some time just my dad and i would have really made a difference. not that i would blame this totally on her moving in but when i felt alone i spent time with my boyfriend and got pregnant at 16 so just be careful that your the one providing the attention she needs.

I agree with missanc, you need to put your daughter's needs before your own desires here.

I don't know, a lot goes into it. How long has he been your significant other? Are you engaged, or is there a reason you aren't married before he moves in? I'm not a prude but living together without children is different than living together with children in the home. Does your daughter not like your boyfriend, or is she worried she won't get to spend time with you? Does he try to parent her? By the time she is 14 she is much too used to how things have been done in the past, and already rebellious enough without adding someone in to discipline her who is not a parent, so I would say to be very clear on this from the beginning that he is not there to set her rules or enforce them, that is your job as her mother. But I think you should think long and hard about if this is good for your daughter. She may just be being a difficult teen, but she also may not need this upheaval in her life right now. Good luck to you both.

Teenage girls are very fragile. This could put her over the edge and have her act out really badly. I got married when my daughter was 13. I thought all was well but she began acting out at 14 and is very resentful and angry with me. The good thing is, she adores my husband but it is ME that she is mean and resentful towards. It's not only the marriage but also the divorce when she was 10 and selling the house that was her only home at the same time. A lot of damage was done and now I'm struggling with lots of issues because of it. Just be prepared. There is no way to make it easier other than to spend time with her and listen to her but it is guaranteed to get much rockier. Good luck.

I wouldn't do it. I was going to move a guy in until I found out he made a move on my 15 yr old when I was at work! She was more important to me so I kicked him to the curb

What happened when you lived together before? I would think that if she really didn't want him too, I would wait until she felt more comfortable with the situation. I think that your showing her a path that maybe you wouldn't want her to follow in. If you tried it once, and it didn't work out, why try it again?

I would not do it, You are putting someone else ahead of her, that will stay with her forever.