I am 30 years old, I have a 12 year old daughter and 9 year old son, and my husband and I have been together for 13 years... I am a really successful beautician here in our town.... we have a 3 bedroom house ( well technically 4 bedrooms but it is soo small that we have made that room into kind of like a big closet lol ) ...
My point is, lately I have constantly thinking about having another baby... When my kids were little I was a stay at home mom and I loved every big of it, but we only had 2, and then as soon as my youngest went to kindergarten, I went to beautician school. I really love the way our life is now and it feels like everything is perfect -- until now and I cant shake the baby feelings away.
Back then I always did have the 3rd baby in the back of my mind but my husband didnt want to hear of it because we already had plans and really at that time it just didnt feel right.
I constantly think about it, but my husband gets annoyed when i try and talk about it, even though i know he would be happy to have another baby I think he is just worried about how much change it would take, I think he still has alot of vivid memories of being thrown up on and the screaming tantrums in public... also the fact that he said it wouldnt be right since the other kids are already older, they wouldnt really bond ...
I just dont know, does anyone else have kids with a big age gap ?
I honestly dont see it as a big problem like he does... right now during the summer I cut back to 2 days a week ( sometimes I go in on a Saturday for weddings or something), so that way i am home with the kids most of the time they are home ( and they go to my mom and dads the days I go in) ... so i could do this with the baby too - just all year long... i would still make a decent amount and my husband has a good job too, so our bills wouldnt be a problem... and also since the kids are older they can actually be big helps, and they are also old enough that it isnt as if the baby will be taking alot of time away from them ( since most of the time they want to be with friends too ) ...
But my husband also thinks this is just me feeling old ( since the kids dont want me around them as much anymore) ... but I dont think i would think about it this much if it was just a phase...
Asked by Anonymous at 1:37 PM on Jun. 6, 2011 in Parenting Debate
Answer by salexander at 1:50 PM on Jun. 6, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 2:00 PM on Jun. 6, 2011
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Answer by justanotherjen at 3:12 PM on Jun. 6, 2011
Answer by justanotherjen at 3:14 PM on Jun. 6, 2011
I think this is a decision that BOTH parents need to agree on. if one partner does NOT want another child, that decision should be honored. Sounds like your family and home are very happy and healthy. Why mess with success and harmony?
Answer by Sisteract at 4:41 PM on Jun. 6, 2011
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