Let me start by explaining, My SIL and her 2yr daughter live with us. My MIL lives in the garage appt. behind our house. My DH asks me to keep the piece and try not to fight with them, yet he doesn't want to be the "middle man".
Now.... My SIL and MIL do not talk to me at all, my SIL is never here (like I tell my DH "she uses us as a hotel/grocery store") she sleeps here and takes food (but doesn't eat here). Her "routine" is this, wake up, take Ayla (her daughter) and herself to my MILs house, come back at nap time put Ayla down for a nap (doesn't even wait to be sure she goes to sleep) and go back to MILs house, come back in a few hours later to get Ayla and goes back to MILs house, comes back at bed time puts Ayla in bed (agai, doesn't wait for her to go to sleep) and goes back to MILs house until shes ready to go to bed herself... She expects me to watch her daughter and that in its self drives me crazy!
She sent me a text yesterday telling me " Jus lettin u knw on tues and thrs i have class till 505 i wont be home till 6 or so cuz i got to walk". That's it, that's all it said, and by that she was telling me to watch her daughter! I just love the way my SIL and MIL hink i have no life and am some kind of live in babysitter...!
We have a 2 bedroom house and 5 kids all together, we have to make due with the boys sharing 1 room and SIL with her daughter in the other room, we turned our living room into our bedroom (which we share with the baby) and our dining room is now our living room, needless to say we could really use the room my SIL is in... And there is so much more to say, but that is the basics of it...
What I want to do is just take them off our food stamps and put my SILs things outside with a note telling her to get her own food stamps and her own house because I'm tired of dealing with it all... The problem being that it will cause a fight between me and my DH. What would you do?
Answer by Anonymous at 12:47 PM on Jun. 7, 2011
Answer by jteffs at 12:47 PM on Jun. 7, 2011
Can't sil and mil live in the same little apt behind your house no matter how tiny it is? That's my first suggestion. Then mil and sil can go get their food stamps together. You would have your house back for you and your family. Then tell sil you are not her live in babysitter and she must ask you in advance about taking care of her daughter OR mil can do it.
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