This is not about adoption of a child removed from an abusive situation
When reading introductions of mothers who have recently placed, I almost always read how long ago she placed her baby for adoption. Then she says "...I know I did the right thing..."
I also hear aparents say that their child's natural mom 'did the right thing' to give up her baby. Makes parenting sound wrong?
The majority of natural mothers later in life come to believe just the opposite -- it was not the Best choice, that it was not Necessary, and some conclude that it was the WRONG or WORST choice of her life.
If the child is not in danger of harm, then adoption is not a matter of right or wrong. So, why do I hear "the right thing" over and over.
I think it promotes the very untrue stereotype that natural moms are monsters, druggies, criminals, and abusers.
I think maybe it has to do with a perception that in order to parent a certain level of financial security is necessary so if the birth mother is struggling she's told that the right thing to do is to give the baby to parents who are better off and can provide more for the baby or for young mothers to give the baby to older mothers.
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