My sister in law has always talked about how many friends she has ( she was an only kid and was raided by her grandma, and so I think she basically will be friends with as many people as she can to make up for that ) ... if you meet her, 5 minutes later she will tell everyone you are her BFF ( I am serious I have seen it happen ) , every other day she has a brand new BFF and she will talk and talk about how close they are.
Anyways, we have gotten use to it, she will bail on our ( me and my family ) plans, to hang out with friends, and the few times she is around us she will talk only about her friends.
We have gotten use to this , but it still hurts, especially now that she is about to have my niece. She has said she doesn't want anyone at the hospital except her and my brother ( but he said he wants us there) , well come to find out, she has about 15 "friends" that " has to be there" . She has said she just wants to bond with the baby and so none of my brothers family is aloud to come over within the first 3 weeks ( my brother again, wants us to be there ) , but yet she has 3 friends who are going to live with her and help her out for the first week or 2. One of these friends has lost custody of her children, and the other is a huge druggie... but yet, we who are loving family memebrs who all has never lost custody, never done drugs or anything like this " are not aloud to see the baby".
My brother told me he wants me to babysit for his daughter when she goes back to work because he trusts me more than anyone she wants to take care of the baby... And she at one time even said I could, and that she was going to go back to work at 4 weeks. She also said in the same breath " but I have all of these friends who have to watch her too" ...
My brother has to go back to work after 1 week, so she told me today that when he goes back to work her and a group of her friends are going to take a vacation with the baby to Arizonia ( we are in Ohio) ... She then told me not to tell anyone ( like I am really not going to) .. i tried to be nice and just say things like " well at one week old you or the baby probably wont feel like traveling, especially that far , and that my brother would be pretty upset if you take his newborn daughter across the country" and she said well that is why it is "going to be a surprise" ..
But honestly I think the thing that bothers me the most is that I am really the only bio. aunt, and she is calling all of her friends aunts as well... she even had shirts made for them that say something about proud aunt ( that they are going to wear the the hospital) ...and most of them are people she has met just recently ( less than a year ago ) ... AND she says " they are so close, they will be in her daughters life forever" ... well they didnt even go to her babyshower becasue " they forgot" ... but yet me, the real aunt is the one that had to throw it and plan and pay for it... and yet I cant even go to the hospital !!!
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