My sister uses her daughter's autism as an excuse to not teach her any manners at all. She is autistic, but she is very, very smart and CAN be taught how to behave. Her therapists at school teach her good behavior, but it is never applied at home so she (like any smart kid) knows that if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to.
Every family get-together before children was family style, with big bowls of chips, salad, plates of crackers and cheese, you name it, all set out so we could pick at it all day. Since she was old enough to walk, my niece has been into the food. She will take a bite, put it back, lick a chip, put it back. My sister thinks that because her daughter has autism it is acceptable for her to do this, and doesn't even try to stop her. She is now 5 years old, and it ceased to be "cute" a LONG time ago for all of us, but no one wants to say anything and be the one "attacking" the autistic kid.
My sister is very over-sensitive, especially about her "parenting", and any offhand comment is taken as a direct, intended insult against her parenting. She has 2 other kids, not autistic, who are totally out of control, rude, loud, and obnoxious. She just doesn't see it, even when I caught her 6 year old son ( who is HUGE for his age) beating up on my brother's daughter, who was only 3 at the time, and about a third his size. He was in the act of sitting on top her, ripping out handfuls of her hair, and LAUGHING while he was doing it. He was never punished for it either. I keep my kids ( 2 and 1) far away from them and in my sight whenever we are together so nothing will happen to them.
Asked by Anonymous at 11:37 AM on Jun. 8, 2011 in General Parenting
Answer by Anonymous at 11:40 AM on Jun. 8, 2011
Answer by Shanna84 at 11:40 AM on Jun. 8, 2011
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Answer by sweetpotato418 at 11:44 AM on Jun. 8, 2011
Maybe you could mention something to her as a joke taking away some of the tension about it, ie., "hey sis everyone wants to taste the food not (insert kids name's here) spit" and make light of the situation so no feelings are hurt.
Answer by Secretive at 11:45 AM on Jun. 8, 2011
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