Yesterday I told hubby that we would be having chicken parm for dinner. When he got home from work the first thing he says is "I don't smell anything" Well, no, because it's only 4:30! He said he was joking and that he would help me make it. Awesome!
Except, not! He starts playing a video game. Fine, whatever. I didn't ask for/need his help to make dinner, I planned on doing it by myself anyway. Well here comes the 14month old, crying at my feet while I'm cutting raw chicken. "Baby, Mommy's hands are yucky right now, I can't hold you" Hint hint to hubby, right? Right over his head. So I try a more direct approach. "Hey, Babe? Can you come get Luke, I'm cutting chicken and I think he needs his diaper changed." Success!
Until 5 minutes later when I have a newly changed bay at my feet, crying and whining, while I am breading the chicken. So now my hands are covered in raw chicken, raw egg, and bread crumbs. I have to ask hubby to come get him again.
So 5 minutes later, when I am frying the chicken in a pan on the stove, guess who is at my feet? Now I'm pissed. It has now officially passed from annoying to dangerous. As I'm taking the chicken out of the pan, a piece falls and hits the baby and I flip out!
Hubby's stance is "I got him twice for you, but he doesn't want me, what do you want me to do?"
Ummm I don't know... hold him? Play with him? Somehow distract him to keep him out of the kitchen while I have HOT FUCKING OIL on the stove? "Is it too much to ask you to keep him busy"
You know what he said? "Is it too much to ask you to clean the house?"
OMG does he thing a fairy comes in and washes, folds, and puts away his clothes? The same fairy must wash the dishes, clean the kitchen, and vacuum as much as she can with our BROKEN vacuum everyday(only the hose works, plus after one room it overheats or something and shuts itself off and won't turn on again for hours. We have a new one on layaway).
I am SORRY our house doesn't make Better Homes & Gardens but it is not dirty! It may be cluttered and a little messy, but it is not dirty! He says when HE cleans, the place looks spotless. And you know what, he's right. When HE cleans I hve the boys out somewhre all day and he isn't also taking care of them. So SO WHAT?
I'm just so pissed that our baby could have gotten hurt and all he has to say is that he's not satisfied with the way I clean the house. UGH! I clean for HOURS everyday and if I didn't he would KNOW.
I went for a walk and didn't come bck for 2 hours and we haven't spoken. Should I apologize for flipping out? Or for walking out? I feel like shit right now, I hate fighting with him. But he hurt my feelings! Made me feel inadequate and missed the point about the baby possibly getting hurt.
Answer by MaryMW at 1:12 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
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Answer by happymama02 at 12:55 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
He needs to learn to fight/argue fair. You frustration with him over him not being able to entertain Luke has nothing to do with house cleaning. He was wrong for not keeping Luke out of the kitchen during the entire time you were cooking but he was also wrong for bringing up any other topic when you were angry about his inability or unwillingness to play with Luke. I'd be pointing several of his errors out to him at my first opportunity.
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