Sugar bear, I would like you to do ________.
I see more posts asking "why can't my husband take the hint"
because you didn't say what you actually wanted is my guess.
I've been called subtle as a train wreck, but in almost 15 years of being together I've never heard my husband complain that he has no idea what I want from him! He may often wish he didn't know what I want since he sometimes doesn't want to have to do _______ and _______, but being unclear on my wishes is not a common problem in this household!
And that includes the bedroom too. If I want it, I just tell him flat out that I want it.
May want to give it a try ladies. A lot of problems I keep hearing about seem to come from not being clear on your wishes. I'm not saying that it will mean that he will always do what you ask, but it's better than getting upset because he didn't get the hint!
Edit: OK, fine. here it is in the form of the quesiton:
Isn't it a wonderful idea to just tell men flat out what you want rather than hinting?
Asked by Anonymous at 1:04 PM on Jun. 8, 2011 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 1:11 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
Answer by JulieJacobKyle at 1:24 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
Answer by SMG1120 at 1:33 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
Answer by kgrine at 1:43 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
Answer by Ms.Gwen at 1:46 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
I am a flat out say what I need/want type of woman. Hints, subtleties and innuendos only work for somethings, and only half-ass work at that.. lol Lots of marital discord is caused by partners hinting, dropping clues or just expecting their partner to just "know" what they need or want. When most of the time, hints are not taken.. Clues aren't picked up on. And no one is a mind reader.
Being up front, and speaking honestly in regards to what you need, what you want is the only way to make sure your partner "gets it". Plus this approach also cuts down on the amount of miscommunication in the relationship, which of miscommunication is another big culprit behind marital discord.
Answer by pixie_trix at 3:27 PM on Jun. 8, 2011
Answer by lovingmy4babies at 3:47 PM on Jun. 8, 2011