I have I son and 2 grandchildren that are grown with their own families ... I recently was working on my will because of some medical issues I know I will not be on this earth for much more time... I had a few peices of paper where I was trying to figure things out, one day I had a "surprise" visit and I forgot I had my stuff on the kitchen counter... and of course one of them seen it and brought it to attention to the rest...
and needless to say someone is mad.
I planned on leaving my son and my grandaughter the same amount of money - which isnt that bad of an amount... But I had planned on leaving my grandson and his family a little bit more...
the reasons being , my GS and his family do alot for me, his wife comes over almost everyday to help me out with the house or just to sit and talk ( and she is a talker) .... they do not have that much money ( even though he works hard) but they still make the best of it, they take care of the things they do have, they do everything for their young children and I just think very highly of them.
My son and grandaughter , I love very much, but i hardly see them, and when i do they act as if I should be greatful to have them stop over, the last time I asked my grandaughter if she could take me to a doctor appointment ( grandsons wife went on a field trip with her daughter that day - usually she takes me to them) , and she acted as if I asked her to commit and crime. She is already kind of well off with money, her husband and herself both of well to do jobs, their kids are in private schools ( which means they have the money to pay for it ) , and they are always buying new things ( like cars and electronics) .... The same goes for my son, he has never had a problem with money, he too can buy alot fo new things, and just like GD , doesnt take care of their things and has no problem just throwing things away...
When they found out what I was planning on doing it turned into a big thing, GD started saying that GS only visits so he can get money and I fell for it and silly things like that.... they have NEVER asked for or taken any money from me, when they visit, I can tell they actually enjoy being around me ( sometimes I have to pretend to be tired so they will leave LOL ) ...
I honestly just do not feel right leaving them all the same amount when I think he and his family deserve it more... But it just makes me feel awful that my own son and GD would act like this, or do you think they have a right to be upset ?
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