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How to Spice things up??

Ive been married to my husband for 12 years, i have always had a higher sex drive than he has, so latley its been less than usual. when i asked him about it he say we work differnt shifts and the kids are always home, and hes just plain tired! all very true excuses!!
But i need SEX!!! i want some ideas on how to make him want me no matter how tired he is!!!

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:07 AM on Jun. 9, 2011 in Relationships

Answers (9)
  • Text him something raunchy like what u want to do to him. Then take a picture of just your boobs and send that to him.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:10 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • You could always try role play and or just wear a sexy nightie.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:25 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • I like the idea of starting from the beginning. Find ways to go back to when you took time to work up to sex. Adding food to the mix, or buying products that lure him to have to take his time and lick. There's lots of things! Look into a pure romance party or a book that sparks your interest.

    Answer by vasa9653 at 1:40 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • Try a sexy massage. With lots of rubbing and kissing and touching. Always works for us :)

    Answer by LeahsMommy361 at 1:48 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • tabasco sorry had to say that

    as far as spicing things up in the bedroom, you could do the sexy text/emails, but with kids home and opposite shifts its going to be a little hard. instead of spicing things up you may need to take some time to yourselves, find a sitter. if you dont do it already, be more playful and affectionate outside the bedroom, holding hands, kisses, hugs, butt grabbing(maybe not around the kids), or even just whispering in his ear i want you, then finding something for the kids to do and lock him in your bedroom or bathroom for a quicky. the sad part of being parents is we fall into that role and forget how to be a couple.

    Answer by gothmama91 at 1:56 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • What always works for me when he's sleeping wake him up to a little sucky sucky and jump on once he's hard. That or do it in a public place not right out in the open but just public enough where you might get caught. Guys love that. Good luck.

    Answer by hot-mama86 at 4:03 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • go buy a toy

    Answer by dmr73059 at 5:16 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • Deff drop the hints but you can always take care of u when u need it and he's not around to give u some :)

    Answer by rinamomof2 at 8:16 AM on Jun. 9, 2011

  • If he says no, start to pleasure yourself in front of him. There's no way he'll ignore that!

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 12:18 AM on Jun. 10, 2011

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