I come from a family where my father cussed whenever he droppped something or something sudden happened and my mother never cussed. We were taught that it is disrespectful. Anyways my hubby's family is not like that at all. His mother says racist jokes and cusses whenever. She has a habit of having a potty mouth around the other children in the family.
One day when we were over at her house for a bbq my son accidentally stepped on her foot and she told him the "watch where you're going you little s***!" I was horrified. My son cried. He's only 3. I grabbed my son and told my husband that I will be in the car. I closed the door to the car and I could still hear the muffled yelling of my husband. He was really yelling at his mother. She screamed something like we are not welcome at her house anymore and that she can say whatever she wants to whoever she wants. My husband said that he doesn't want his son around her anyway and we proceeded to leave.
It's been 3 months and my husband hasn't mentioned his mother or the incident since the car ride home. I feel sick when I think of that day. I know I can't change the way people are but do you think this relationship is salvagable? It is his mother. He gets along great with my family and he is the life of the party all the time makng jokes and everyone loves him. I can't help think that he might wish his family was the same. His family makes everything hard though. They are really negative people who smoke and drink around their kids. My husband and his oldest sister are the only responsible ones. She also doesn't want her kids around them and moved closer to us.
Should I ask him about what he wants to do? I just don't like seeing him upset.
Asked by Anonymous at 12:43 PM on Jun. 10, 2011 in Relationships
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