Hi- I just recently got married in march to a wonderful man who has an 8 yr old son. He was never with the Childs mother, one of those things that happens, a very complicating situation... Anyway, I have 3 children of my own from a previous marriage, ages of mine are 16,11,and 7. My kids' dad is not in their life at all so my husband now has been so good to my children, I'm so thankful! My husbands so is only over at our house every other weekend and a little more in the summer. My problem is where he doesn't live with us full time, when he is over he tries to have all attention. Constantly telling on my children trying to get them in trouble and get his way. Always threatening to tell his dad on them. This has been going on a while I just always try to ignore or blow it off because I know my step son has a horrible life at his home away from ours. But now I've just about had enough. He's been over alot already this summer and the constant fighting and competing for attention is on my last nerve and I feel bad for my kids because he drives them crazy. Me and my husband both work so my oldest babysits for us and it's getting a little out of hand. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt my husbands feelings but somethings gotta give. I'm hoping he doesn't think I'm "against" his son when I talk to him about it. I just wanted some advice on how to handle this.Answer Question
Answer by Shanna84 at 2:25 PM on Jun. 10, 2011
Wow...your oldest watches your children...
The first thing I would say...and I think your situation is different...
The rules of the home apply to all....
So if SS does something he is not suppose to do...he needs to be disciplined..
I think one of the problems will be that he is not going to listen to your daughter...
How about getting together as a family and talking about what is expected from everyone and letting the younger children
know whom they have to listen to while mom and dad are not at home..
In your situation..and I am a stepmom...I would seek professional councel...
Answer by Dannee at 2:27 PM on Jun. 10, 2011
Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 2:33 PM on Jun. 10, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 2:40 PM on Jun. 10, 2011
His 8-year-old should be treated about the same as your 7-year-old. Same rules and consequences. Don't cut him a break because his mom is an a** h***. He will learn discipline and will grow up and thank you for teaching it to him.
Answer by JSD24 at 3:37 PM on Jun. 10, 2011
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