My DH's ex is the BEST friend of one of my best friends. Although, she lives 7 states away, so we don't see her much. When my Dh broke up with her (because he says he was not in love) he told her they could always remain friends & she took that to heart. I know she was head over heels for him, because i read a few of her love letters when DH & I first started dating. He has now gotten rid of them.
The problem is...i really like her. But, i get so damn self conscious when she is around. I feel torn. If i know she is coming to town, i start dieting & i go buy nice clothes & i begin to freak out a little. She makes me more insecure of myself than anyone or anything. I am normally a very confident woman.
I have no worries about "anything happening" between her & my hubby. He told me flat out that he had to break it off with her because he just wasn't that into her & said he definitely was not in love...but she was....so i guess i worry that she may have some secret resentment towards me or him. She is 5 years older than DH, but 15 years older than me. He says if anything bothers her, it's that he married a younger woman.
It's been about 10 years since they've been together, so a long time has passed. But, my gut tells me that she holds some kind of resentment, i can just feeeeel it. I have tried to make friends with her, but she does not seem interested so i stopped trying. She is happy with being acquaintances, I'm OK with that. I treat her respectfully & we all have fun when she is here visiting. But, i have a hard time being myself when she is here. I'm usually the life of the party, when she is here...i tend to shy away in the corner.
Anyhow, do any of you have to deal with your DH's ex at certain social gatherings?
Why is it that i worry so much when she is around? Why do i have a harder time "just being myself" when she is around?
She is not a threat.....but she is kind of sexy....
I guess i just need some words of wisdom if anyone has any....
Asked by Anonymous at 4:31 PM on Jun. 10, 2011 in Relationships
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