I live across the state - I've gone back to my hometown twice to visit - and my oldest son stood me up both times. Now that we're being transferred back, my husband is there - and painting our house this weekend. My son was supposed to go out and help - especially since he called two days ago and asked to borrow money because he is broke and don't get paid till next Friday. My husband met up with him and gave him $200 and told him that it WAS NOT a loan and that he had to work it off helping paint the house. My son was supposed to show up at 1 o'clock today - DH is still at the house painting and my son has never shown up. And I can't reach him anywhere. (and yes, I've called the hospital and the jail - he's neither place) And there's no answer at his work - they only work half days on Saturday. I even called his roommate, and I talked to one of his co-workers - I know that he worked until noon, and that he never went home after work - so where he took off to instead of going out to work off the money DH fronted him - I can't imagine. (and this is the first time we've given him so much as a dollar in over 3 years) So it's not like this is normal - we don't believe in handing $$ out to ungrateful kids. DH had a soft spot for him one time - and he does this - GAH! And DH even warned him that he better show his ass up and make good or he'd come looking for him. DH is already talking about going to the boys apartment when he gets finished painting - heaven forbid if DH actually finds the boy - he might get a butt whooping this time.
I'm so sick of his games and him using me. I mean - use ME - but when you get DH (his step-dad) involved, he's asking for real fire. This time he didn't screw me over, he screwed his step-dad over. I just couldn't be more pissed off and disappointed than I am right now.
We were already VERY reserved about giving him money - and DH only agreed to let him have the $$ because the boy agreed to work it off. I'm literally so bleeping mad I could scream!!!!!! He just don't get that when he pisses DH off, there WILL BE NO MORE help from us because I couldn't and wouldn't go behind DH's back to give that boy money that DH works hard for. I mean, we moms take a lot of abuse sometimes, but when he gets on DH's bad side - there's no "bond" to save his ass from being cut off permanently.
I'm not even sure what to say to the boy when I do finally get hold of him.
What would you say?
Asked by Anonymous at 5:32 PM on Jun. 11, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
Answer by Kathy675 at 5:40 PM on Jun. 11, 2011
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