My husband has been a horrible liar since we first started dating. He would lie about the stupidest things, like what time the pool closed or wether he walked the dog. We've been to therapy twice and she says he feels he needs to lie based on things that happened in his childhood. I'll admit, he doesn't lie as often as he use to.
Then he has had these friendships with other women that just were getting to far for my comfort. The first was when we were dating, they worked together and I told him she wanted more. He didn't believe me until she said I wasn't good enough for him and he should be with her. He ended the friendship.
Next was a woman he worked with (again) and she began texting him all the time. About things she saw on the street and other stupid stuff. I told him, a woman wouldn't be texting you these things unless she likes you in a different way. These are things you text your best friend or SO, not just a co-worker. Sure enough, she got drunk and flashed him her breasts at the xmas party! I asked him to stop talking to her and he did.
Last was the hardest. It was a woman he actually did work for and he gave his cell phone number, as he does for many customers, in case of emergency. She began texting him a lot and he would text her back. I just happened to see one of the texts come across one time while he was sleeping. He had deleted all previous texts. He gave me an excuse I didn't believe and in the morning, he told me something more believable. I decided to check our cell records and saw that they were texting each other continuously for a few weeks. Sometimes more than 100 text in one day! This was while I was suffering a miscarriage, was rushed to emergency for the loss of blood AND I found the message on our anniversary! He told me nothing more happened, and for some reason, I believe that.
Now though he is going to school at night and there are a lot of group projects and majority of the class are women. He went tonight to meet with his group, 3 women, and I just have a hard time trusting that none of these are going to turn into something more. He thinks I overreact. Would you trust him?
Asked by Anonymous at 11:04 PM on Jun. 11, 2011 in Relationships
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