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How can i be sure that my 3yr understands she going to have another baby?

We have tryed to prepair her for this baby am due in a couple weeks. we went an brought her to every ultra sound an we have all the baby stuff is all ready an she helped me pack the diapper bag an she picked all the cloths her sis will wear up their. we have got books about this to an read them to her an how it will change when the baby comes.

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Asked by BOOKER123ABC at 10:48 AM on Jun. 12, 2011 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • I think that's pretty much all you can do, I'm not sure she will really understand until you bring the baby home. Just make sure to include her as much as possible in helping with the baby.

    Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 10:51 AM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • we will but the close we get to haven the baby the more she acting out an hitting not sure what this is all about or what we can do we tell her no its not ok an put her in time out.

    Comment by BOOKER123ABC (original poster) at 10:59 AM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • It all sets in when the baby comes home. It is hard for them to really understand until then. Just like we don't know what it really will be like until the time comes. Maybe a baby doll with clothes and diapers will help too. Make sure you make it all about her for awhile when the baby comes home. It is some of the best advice I ever got. Make lots of one on one time with her - both you and your DH. And do things like go to the park, out to lunch, for a swim, etc and say only big girls can do this, not babies. It made a huge difference in our family. GL!!

    Answer by whitepeppers at 11:04 AM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • thanks well we have done that stuff now my sis had a baby an we try telling her that this is how little baby will be an when i hold the baby she want to be held. an what about me being in the hospital with the new baby how is this going to affect her with both parents being up their she will be at grandmas.

    Comment by BOOKER123ABC (original poster) at 11:16 AM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • dolls are great examples at that age, when the baby comes let her help so she doesnt feel left out. the first day you come home she may be excited then she might go through a srage of jealousy so be a little sensitive and make sure she knows you still love her just as much as always.. i try cutting out a special hour during babies naps for just her and i time.

    Answer by xxhazeldovexx at 11:36 AM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • She will be find at grandma's if she gets tons of love and attention there. You are doing all you can do. You might stop talking so much about the baby now and not emphasize it too much. Also be prepared for some regressions in behavior. Just be consistent what is and is not allowed. Stay calm and loving.

    Answer by whitepeppers at 11:43 AM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • thank you all am still nervious but am sure that wont go away an will get throught it am sure lol again thanks an will keep you posted on how this wporks out

    Comment by BOOKER123ABC (original poster) at 12:31 PM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • i am expecting a baby girl in june and with my 2 year old little boy i try to show him like when we go to a grocey store and i see a mom and a child his age and a baby and i tell him look thats what are family wil be like but when the baby gets here she will probably love being a big sister :)

    Answer by mommyoflogan23 at 10:04 PM on Jun. 12, 2011

  • yes am sure the first few weeks she will love the baby an then it will change after the baby has been here for a while an she relizes the baby isnt going

    Comment by BOOKER123ABC (original poster) at 10:09 PM on Jun. 12, 2011

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