I have a 7.5 year old DD and a 5.5 year old DD. I am having an issue with the 7 year old. She is getting quite mouthy and bossy around here. She of course knows everything and wants to argue and disagree with everything and everyone. She actually said it wasn't raining one day.... just becuase her sister asked if she got wet walking to the car.... it WAS raining.
She now is responsible for doing her own laundry because of her mouthing off to me when i explained to her she was not changing once again... so now she can change as often as she would like and she can do her own laundry as well.
I am needing some ideas to get her out of this arguing stage. Really no matter what is said, her first response is "no" or "nut-uh".... she is also REALLY into questioning her father and I. When we do provide an explination(it isn't safe... it is rude... we don't have enough money...etc) she of course has a reason that OUR reason isn't valid( I won't get hurt... I don't always have to be polite... just use your debit card, or write a check it's only $3...etc)
I am going crazy here..... some Love and Logic is really needed.
Answer by meooma at 11:44 AM on Jun. 12, 2011
Say what is allowed and stop there. Tell her you will not say anything else and ignore the rude comments. You also might do time out if it really gets out of hand. Stay calm and matter of fact on what is and is not allowed. Remember for each of you to spend one on one time with her too. Lots of kids go for the negative attention when they do not get enough positive attention. She needs praise when she does things right and positive attention too.
Answer by whitepeppers at 11:48 AM on Jun. 12, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 11:51 AM on Jun. 12, 2011
DD has ODD and loves to keep arguing in order to get her way. Our therapist suggested that I should use the phrase 'End of discussion' more often than I do. She also suggested that I follow up with a consequence when DD persists when I've made my final decision.
Do try to nip this in the bud. It will only get worse as DD gets older. (Our DD is almost 15.) It is your house and in it, your rules need to be followed - not a 7.5-year-olds. Also, I recently started giving my 7-year-old twins an allowance. When they ask for something that's 'only $3' I tell them they can buy it themselves with their allowance.
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