My MIL is very controlling and when she did visit she always undermined DH and i when we do anything for DD (If DD gets tired and we lay her down she wakes her up and says she's not tired she can sleep when i leave.....which could be 6 -9 hours later) this woman hasn't been in my DD's life since she was 3 months old (DD will be 9 months on the 23rd) and this is by her own choice she comes to our town sometimes twice a week and will not come see DD because she hates me (her ideal life would be her visiting whenever she wants.....as long as i leave and don't show my face in my home until she leaves or my husband can bring DD to her home but i will stay home) well that doesn't work for DH and I we are a family you see us as a family....back to the point she doesn't know my DD and expects us to let her take DD for 3 days while i recover from the C-section and doesn't understand why we have said no repeatedly and is furious that my Mother is watching her the first day then DH will watch her at night and my mother will watch her during the day when she isn't brought to the hospital......am i right to not leave my daughter with someone who doesn't know my daughter and my daughter doesn't know please i need advice on how to handle this my DH is getting a major guilt trip from MIL saying he is ruining her life by allowing me to keep her Granddaughter away from her by keeping her second chance at being a mother to another daughter away.....Answer Question
Answer by samurai_chica at 6:52 PM on Jun. 12, 2011
Answer by gammie at 6:54 PM on Jun. 12, 2011
Answer by emmyandlisa at 7:01 PM on Jun. 12, 2011
Answer by momov4kids at 7:07 PM on Jun. 12, 2011
I agree with gammie, stick to your guns!!!, I'm sorry but if my MIL doesn't like me & treats me the way she treats you not wanting me around her & not wanting to come to my house to see my child unless I'm not there then screw her!!!, a true grandmother wouldn't care if your there or not what would be important is to go & see their grandchild. Besides since she is not in your DD life as much because of her ignorance with you then she shouldn't be allowed to stay with the baby because the baby doesn't know her & she will be scared & feel strange she will cry a lot so don't put your little princess in that situation. What your MIL needs to do is start to be in her grandchild's life a little more & win her until your DD gets use to her. GL!
Answer by VanillaBlondie8 at 7:11 PM on Jun. 12, 2011
Maybe she was trying to extend an olive branch to you by offering. I don't know why she is upset if no one got upset with her, because it up to you and your DH where your daughter stays. I'd be civil with her and politebut ignore any drama she wants to create. Enjoy the birth of your new baby don't dwell on your MIL, make a decision with your DH and let it go.
Answer by RyansMom001 at 7:16 PM on Jun. 12, 2011
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