My husband was trying to get the entire month of June off so we could go visit his family up in WA for a couple weeks before he deploys. He has tons of leave anyway, and he likes to take big chunks like that to be able to de-stress from his job.
Anyway, gas prices skyrocketed, and with a family of 6, we weren't sure we had enough saved to be able to make it up there. His mom (drama queen #1) told us she understood about it being too expensive for us to come up, etc, which, that's HUGE of her to say. We've not been able to visit since the boy was very young (he's the 2nd born), so none of the family have gotten to meet the two youngest, except hub's parents. They came down for a visit a couple summers ago.
Anyway, here's my dilemma. I've been having this feeling that if I don't take the kids down to visit my parents, we won't get to see my father again. He's in really bad health (only 61, but been a smoker since early teens). He has bladder cancer, and it is attacking him very hard. My mom and brother have plans to come up here mid-July (my husband may or may not still be here), and I was thinking about following them back down, regardless of whether or not my husband had left yet or not.
Obviously, I feel horrible about telling our in-laws, yeah, we don't have any money to go visit you, but I'll go visit my folks. At least, that's how I'm afraid she'll perceive it. There's more to why we weren't able to go up there...the idiots in my hub's office failed to write down that he wanted the month of June off, and now he has pre-deployment appointments all throughout this month. So its not JUST about the money. And I don't really feel comfortable enough to go up there by myself with the kids. I really don't know his family all that well.
My husband thinks we should just not tell her about me going and visiting my folks, but I feel its a horrible idea not to tell her and risk her finding out and throwing a hissy fit. I want to explain to her why I feel I NEED to go visit my folks (btw, my dad cannot travel and therefore cannot come visit, and she knows this, so the only way for my dad to see the kids is when we come visit).
So yeah, I'm wanting to know, would you tell? Or would you try to avoid the forthcoming drama and not tell her?
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