I have a 25 years old, He has moved out several times and has tried to make it on his own, (usually with a girlfriend or room mate)He has been back home now for 6 months, and is currently going to school, he will hopefully graduate in December, this is his 3rd time at going back to school although this time i think he is trying harder and will graduate. I am a single mother and word very hard and long hours. Most of his classes are on line and some quarters he has taken less than a full load. I have asked him to get a part-time job to help out, but i don't think he is looking to hard for a job. I think he is battling with depression and self esteem issues, i have tried to help him, by getting him doctor appt for meds for depression and also counseling. which he only went 2 times and did not go back. i think his depression has improved some, since he began anti-depression meds, He lives in the basement, and has friends over everynight, staying up very late and sleeps until well after noon, i have asked him several times not to have friends when i have to work. Although most of the time they are considerate and do not really keep me awake, he becomes very defensive and has an attitude when i tell him this has to stop and he needs to start taking more responsibiltiy for himself. Even as i am writing this i know that i am enabling him, i have just ordered books on how to help with this. Does anyone have any advice or stories they can share to help?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:07 PM on Jun. 12, 2011 in Adult Children (18+)
I am not a mom of an adult child but my husband and I have both discussed this. If our son needs to live at home while he is working or going to school then we will charge him so much for rent and/or food. We will also have some set rules. If he doesn't like this or if he decides not to follow these rules, then he knows where the door is. He is more than welcome in our home if he can do these things.
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