Ladies, I have been , of late, thinking, We see so much about statisics, polls, references etc....however, I am curious; How many of these women who give their children up for adoption take the wants and needs of the natural father and his family into consideration? In other words, how many really and truly want to give up their child and are not lied to/coerced to do so by the natural mother? I never hear a Bmom, say anything about this! It is always their pain and how they have been failed by people around them and thus could not keep their child and how they had no choice. This is a question of curiousity, intended for other adoptive Moms. I already KNOW what Bmoms will say, so it is of little interest for me to 'hear" how happy their partners were to have their child given away or how they were not suitable etc. This is NOT intended for the purpose of getting anyone "riled" up, it is just that I never have heard anything about "TRUE" feelings of the natural Father, and HIS views/desires/needs...never. I know men in general rarely speak to their emotional views of such subjects, but it would indeed be interesting to hear what their feelings are on adoption. Thanks ,I hope you gals can give me insight into anything you may have "referenced" , personally have knowledge of, or dealt with personally.
Asked by Anonymous at 10:27 AM on Jun. 13, 2011 in Adoption
Answer by ochsamom at 5:36 PM on Jun. 13, 2011
Answer by Southernroots at 5:42 PM on Jun. 14, 2011
Quote: I already KNOW what Bmoms will say, so it is of little interest for me to 'hear" how happy their partners were to have their child given away or how they were not suitable etc.
Fascinating that you think you know what bmoms would say, and that you think amoms would have more information about birth father feelings than bmoms, and that you're surprised that you've never heard anything from bdads on a website where men are excluded.
There are several birth fathers in my Concerned United Birthpartents support group and I have read books by birth fathers. But since you already know what I'm going to say I shan't bother quoting them.
Answer by onethentwins at 2:23 PM on Jun. 13, 2011
ANYONE can be hateful and cruel to backup their ill conceived notions. Birthmothers do not corner the market on that...You are a good example of that. It is too bad you decided to play games with this question and turn it into some weird point you were trying to prove. It would have been a worthwhile discussion.
Answer by ochsamom at 8:20 PM on Jun. 13, 2011
Answer by blessedwboysx3 at 10:59 AM on Jun. 13, 2011
Answer by kimigogo at 11:09 AM on Jun. 13, 2011
Answer by Candi1024 at 11:22 AM on Jun. 13, 2011
Answer by SandalsKitty at 1:25 PM on Jun. 13, 2011
This is just BS.
If a birth mother goes into the birthmothers group and says "I absolutely hate adoptive moms. They are evil kidnappers, I hate them all." I'm not going to confront her. It's the birthmothers group. She has every right to vent and scream and get it all out there. I don't think any of the bmoms in that group would confront her and nor should they feel like they have to.
Now they don't have to agree with her either. CJ's post has been there for 12 hours and not one bmom has agreed with her, commented or given her a charm of any kind. If you have an issue with her, talk to her about it instead of hiding here behind the anon button.
Answer by onethentwins at 9:47 PM on Jun. 13, 2011
Answer by Anonymous at 9:57 PM on Jun. 13, 2011