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Should a woman pick an attractive man as a husband?

First, I don't think Weiner is handsome. Second, ruling out an attractive mate further reduces the list eligibles. Third, ya gotta look at that face every morning .... Your thoughts?

sexting sexcapades aside, the 46-year-old Weiner's a fit, intelligent, promising politician with a six-figure income who had a reputation of a ladies' man and was even named a Cosmo eligible bachelor -- the kind of man that many, many women are drawn to.

And that's where Abedin and other smart, beautiful, accomplished women often make their mistake. The more financially independent women become, the more they prefer good-looking men. But they don't just want their partners to be hotties; they want them to be masculine, physically fit, loving, educated, a few years older and making the big bucks. Oh, and they also have to really want to be a hubby and daddy.

That's a tall order.

And, evidently, it's working against us. Attractive men don't make the best husbands, according to researchers.  In other words, they may be better cads than dads.

We'd be smarter if we sought out guys who are uglier than we are because researchers have found that couples in which the woman is hotter than the guy are happier than if the situation is reversed. And since quite a few women have been telling Weiner how "hot" he is, it's clear that neither Abedin nor Weiner got that memo.


Asked by tasches at 5:55 PM on Jun. 13, 2011 in Relationships

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  • This is interesting . . . what a good topic tasches!

    I think that there is a difference between "attractive to the masses" and "attractive to us". If we look inside our hearts, honestly, we would all have a different sense of what an attractive man would be. We all have our preferences. We should find a mate according to our individual preferences, and not what society prefers . . that is what will make the best match. many times, when you are honest, you will find that your ultimate attractive mate will be so distinct that not everyone will find him attractive. That is how it should be.

    When you choose an attractive mate because society says he is attractive, then the bond is usually superficial.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 6:01 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • Oh, and . . .his poor wife. :( She must be so heartbroken.

    Answer by ImaginationMama at 6:03 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • my husband is a bit on the geeky side but once his confidence came up he worked out a bit and allowed his smile to show now lots of women tell me he is attractive so its something i think men have to learn to be self confident and not just have an ego.


    Answer by takes_a_village at 6:22 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • i think a woman should marry a man SHE finds attractive, not necessarily what the world finds attractive. the only guy i've ever been in love with was ugly as sin, and i found him attractive. his laugh, the way his eyes crinkled up when he smiled, his hands, etc. there were many things that made him sexy or good-looking to ME even knowing most girls wouldn't give him the time of day.

    Answer by shilohsmama425 at 6:31 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • Your body will subconsciously choose a mate for you. Good looking or not, you will be attracted to the pheromones of your partner. You'll respond without even knowing it. Your brain will be attracted to a man who will most likely produce favorable offspring. It's science- look it up.

    Answer by PartyGalAnne at 10:52 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

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