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Is this normal?

My nephew is seven years old. His mother passed 3 years ago. Recently, he has been behaving differently. He reacts strongly negatively to any change in his routine, he hates getting dirty or having things out of their place. His room is always very neat and organized. He is very bossy and gets angry when his playmates do not do things his way. This little boy's father is concerned and is speaking to the pedi sometime next week. Thank you.

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:59 PM on Jun. 13, 2011 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • it could be his way of dealing with not having a Mother, he is at the age when they go to school and he sees that many people have a Father and a Mother. The other thing is it could just be a personality trait that he has, or it could be a combination of both. His Dad is doing the right thing by taking him to the Pedi that way he can be tested and get some ideas on how to tackle this. Good Luck!

    Answer by Princess_s21 at 7:03 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • OCD maybe...

    Answer by Amberlovesher3 at 7:06 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • Kids can be very moody at that age but i would say its a combination and the pedi would be able to give the best advice. Good Luck

    Answer by momkaribg at 7:08 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it would be to not have your mother when you are child. My guess is its his way at trying to cope with such a huge loss.

    Answer by meooma at 7:18 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • I can't imagine after a loss. He should talk to someone professionally though!

    Answer by MommaSiete at 8:25 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • It definitely could be due to the loss of his mom.

    Answer by ceciliam at 8:29 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • Sounds like he is trying to maintain control over those things in his environment that he does have control over. Losing someone is the worst type of loss of control.

    Answer by Madelaine at 9:10 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • i agree with suggest getting him some counseling

    Answer by ilovemyboys84 at 9:57 PM on Jun. 13, 2011

  • I'd say he definitely needs some counseling. Many who develop OCD do so as a means of dealing with FEAR of LOSS. He had to face the reality of death, that it was out of his hands, at a young age. Many who develop OCD do so because a part of their psyche believes if they can do something 'perfect' then the 'bad things' won't happen.

    Answer by KickButtMama at 8:53 AM on Jun. 14, 2011

  • not sure...

    Answer by Kainalu55 at 4:01 PM on Jun. 14, 2011

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