What is the point? Seriously.... why did you give your baby up, then expect to see, visit, talk to, and play with your child? It comes off like you want someone else to raise and pay for your child, but you want all the fun stuff that goes along with having a baby. To me, thats not the point. The point is to give your child what you think is a better life, and improve your own. If you want to be so involved in the child's life, why not keep it? And doesn't the child get confused when he/she grows up, and wants to know why you could visit and play, but not take them home?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 6:09 PM on Dec. 11, 2008 in Adoption
Answer by Jill42721 at 6:18 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
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Answer by miriamz at 7:26 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
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Answer by hedtrippe at 8:16 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
Women don't give their babies up for adoption because they don't want to raise them, they do it because at that time in their lives they are unable to raise them. Many pregnant women only agree to adoption because they are promised that they can see their child growing up and thriving and want their children to know that they still love them. I know I wouldn't have agreed to it otherwise.
If the child is in an open adoption and want to know why she "couldn't take him home" then he is in a perfect position to ask the only person who can answer that question; his birth mom.
Prospective adoptive mom's don't have to agree to open adoption. No one forces them into it. If they only want a closed adoption then they can find a prospective birth mom who also wants a closed adoption.
Answer by onethentwins at 8:53 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
But, I agree with you on one hand. If an expectant mom "expects" to see, visit, talk to, and play with her child, she should not give her baby up for adoption because open adoptions are not legally enforceable in any state and the adoptive parents can, and often do, close the adoption at will. In fact I'd go as far to say DON'T GIVE YOUR BABY UP FOR ADOPTION!
Answer by onethentwins at 8:56 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
Answer by Kidsmamabear at 9:53 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
Annon did you drink your hater-ade today. You sound very bitter about open adoptions. I am a birth mom. I have an open adoption. I did so not because I wanted the" fun" of having a kid but have someone else do the work. I did so because it was the best for HER at the time. She knows about the adoption, she isn't confused. She has two moms, I carried her and her Mom raises her. I have the privilage of vists and letters that I don't abuse or take for granted.
I don't understand your bitterness Annon. Are you the aparent? do you feel the bmom is trying to be too close? If so I have some suggestions (positive ones).
Answer by chrissmom734 at 10:37 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
Answer by randi1978 at 11:00 PM on Dec. 11, 2008
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