If you daughter threatened to leave what would you do?
So here's the backgroung....My daughter is 17 she is grounded for 2 weeks (she has been very rude, disrespectful and even yelling at me - reason for punishment...she hasn't been grounded in over a year). Last night at 8ish she comes in the kitchen and says her BF (she lives around the corner & I specifically said no getting together while being grounded because they always are together) wants her to come over and study for exams. I say no you are grounded. DD pulls the "you don't care about my grades" & "we will be studying, not messing around" routine. I ask her if she would have studied if the BF had not call...she said no. So again I say no and that I am no longer going to discuss it the answer is no.
She then says... Well, I'm leaving and you can't stop me.
She would have left but she texted her BF and she said she wasn't home so my DD had no where to go.
I told her if she made the decision to leave she would regret it. That it was a decision not to live by my rules and that she was old enough to understand what that means. I was not longer going to be held hostage by her temper tantrums and threats of leaving. She is welcome to pick-up the phone call who ever she needed to (she thinks she will go and live with my mom...that is a whole different story). But, if she stays, she will be getting a job and she will be paying for her cell phone and car insurance and if she doesn't then she will have neither.
How would you handle this? What would you have said last night? And how would you handle this going forward? I have a 14 yr old son and an 8 yr old son at home too. It looks like she will be going to Community College and staying at home....
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